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This ain’t it chief
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The only experience I’ve had of this line, too, is when its an older guy coming onto teen girls to try and make them feel mature and grown up in a way to manipulate their affections.
Its all kinds of ick!
When a guy tells me that I am not like other girls, I take it as an insult because you other girls are pretty fucking awesome!
Never try to build someone up by tearing others down. If anyone tries to compliment you by tearing down other women – your sisters, cousins, friends, mothers, aunts, grandmothers – run.
So what if he says “you’re not like other people”?
Not to mention it’s usually a con to get in your pants
Jokes on them, I have a low regard of everyone equally.
Reminds me of the classic « you look good for a black girl » usually followed by a myriad of insults after I didn’t say thank you for the « compliment ».
I have a low regard for humans, to be fair. It might not have anything to do with your gender. That said, maybe it’s best to say that you’re not like other people; gender and sex aren’t super relevant factors.
It’s funny because this is so incredibly sexist in itself because you’re assuming that all guys think like that… when maybe the guy has just had really shitty luck with girls and you’re the first girl that’s not a piece of shit.
My experience with you is different than my previous experiences is another way to look at this.
Not sure I would automatically peg this
For sexist sentiment
Or is this satire I have no idea
I wanna be like most girls (:
WRONG!! It’s a compliment!!!
Or he’s had bad experiences with women. Because, y’know, people often suck.
Wow it’s almost like this woman can read the mind of a man… what a joke.
Yep. It’s lazy and useless info at best, sexist or manipulative at worst.
Tell me WHAT you like about me, not just that you like me. Tell me about your baggage and what’s important to you and WHY you think I’m a good choice not that I’m better than other women.
Build me up and share. Don’t put others.down.
Quality communication (personal and not vague) is essential to healthy interaction whether giving a genuine compliment or building a relationship.
“I love your creative/classy/retro/alternative style” or “that color looks so good on you” vs
“you look so good/hot/sexy” or ” I like how you wear them jeans”
“My ex was really secretive and it gave me anxiety. I love that I feel calm with you and you’re so open” vs
“you’re not like those other lying cheaters.”
So I shouldn’t complement someone for being unique?
Or he’s found something that he likes about you that he hasn’t found in anyone else? Nah, he must want to rape you.
Some of you look way too deep into a guys thinking process.
Most of us just think in the most literal sense possible. Like a caveman. ‘Me like girl. Other girl me no like.’
Of course occassionally you find some psycho who thinks like that, but for the most part we’re just trying to express ourselves in a way that makes the girl feel special.
this is advice? to read patriarchy into such a statement? its a dated manor of speaking, and culturally, it often was used to denote that the behavior of the person was not the stereotypical- culturally indoctrinated behavior of a woman in a movie with a very low Bechdel rating. sometimes the women you are around support trump, hate abortions, and think women were happier when men were in charge. if your from a town or culture with those women, the context of such a statement becomes much less sinister. Just to be clear: i am absolutely here because women do have extra targeted abuse and repressive measures taken out on them. i believe that patriarchy and misogyny are entrenched in our culture and the language and omittion from historical documentation showing the true contributions of women has to be reversed and corrected, and that analysis of the sub context of language in a culture such as ours, is a necessary part of this process. with all this being said, i dont blame any woman from reading into any language used with them. there is obviously a reason for concern. teaching women to read into phrases and language can help them to protect themselves. we know many men have been taught to, and are culturally supported in lying to women!
Couldn’t it also be interpreted as a way of saying “You’re the only girl in the world to me”.
What? Are you fucking stupid?
Personally, I wouldn’t mind using the line. I would prefer saying “youre not like others”, but i do have a low regard for women. I just also have a low regard for everyone. Technically im a misogynist, but im also just a regular old misanthrope so i wouldnt really say im a misogynist.
Perhaps the disdain is not localized to a particular sex. Is the subtext different if I say “You’re not like other people?” Not all of us are knuckle-dragging rapists. Twisting this statement in to something it isn’t and painting everyone with the same brush says you have a generally low regard for anyone who is a male. This, is not a compliment.
Huh, when girls says that to me, I’m like “hell yeah I’m not like these trashes”
Goes to show how terrible men generally are.
I think feminist posted this on Instagram lol, the only reason I follow them is to laugh at their posts
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